Confidence Coaching

Suffering from lack of confidence?

Many people tell me they often think to themselves I have no confidence? and are worried about how this affects them at work or in relationships. If this sounds familiar to you too, it may be useful for you to know that there are many ways to improve self confidence and working with a life coach is one of the easiest because there is someone else helping you find the unique ways to build confidence for you.

As a confidence coach my focus for you is less about confidence building techniques and more about how to improve confidence and self esteem that is relevant to you personally.

Confidence coaching can include:

• how to improve confidence a major area for a lot of people who have already shown a level of confidence and want to make more of their development
• how to gain confidence where you feel your starting point is low in confidence
• how to build self confidence focuses on step by step awareness of where your self confidence exists and can grow
• how to improve self esteem how you feel about yourself; being able to feel better about yourself will improve your self esteem, which has a positive impact on other areas in your life
• how to stop being defensive often due to low self confidence and low self esteem; when you change how you react to situations, you will know how to stop being defensive
• building confidence at work one of the most important areas for many people; helps you be happier and more secure in yourself when you are more confident at work
• how to overcome fear of failure this will give you the ability to progress at whatever you choose, faster and with greater efficiency. Often the fear of failure is more in the mind than a reality, which means you may be holding yourself back with your thinking
• how to get confidence in driving you know that the more driving experience you have, the more you can get confidence in driving, yet it’s the more subtle self-talk that also affects your confidence in driving. Life coaching helps you to change the way you speak to yourself and this can quickly and easily positively impact your driving

Confidence coaching is also relevant in many other areas where you feel self doubt, uncertainty and uncomfortable within yourself.

If you are not quite sure if this type of coaching approach is for you, we can have an informal chat and discuss your personal situation and see if confidence coaching would work for you.

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Personal empowerment coaching

This is one of those phrases often used in conjunction with personal development work.

And, although very few coaches specifically refer to their work as personal empowerment coaching, it is very much the focus of much of the work related to confidence coaching.

The reason is that if you, like many people, feel that you are not in control of your life the way you want to be, then the focus of personal empowerment is to bring the control back into your own hands, so that you can take charge of your life, maybe in your career, your personal life or decision making.

Overall, if what you are looking for is to be happier, the more empowered you feel, the better you will feel about yourself.

So, in summary, personal empowerment coaching is another approach to confidence building and improving self esteem.

Undervaluing yourself

There is a huge impact to how you see yourself, because it reflects in how you present yourself to the world around you, both in your personal life and in your professional life.

By undervaluing yourself, you will unconsciously and unknowingly give out a message to those around you that silently says: Im not worthy.

What tends to happen to people who undervalue themselves is that they do not have the confidence or self belief to put themselves forward and this can stop them from progressing at work, or making new friends, or finding a life partner.

Undervaluing yourself is detrimental to your happiness and if you want to make a positive change in your life, which will have a ripple effect in multiple areas, then this is would be a good place to start.

Assertiveness and decision making

Two of the most common areas that people tend to struggle with are being assertive, especially at work although it can also show up in your personal life too; and the other area of struggle is decision making, particularly major life and work decisions, which I suppose is obvious, yet maybe youve never thought that this is an area you could talk to a life coach about.

When you want to say something, at work or at home, you may want to be assertive and yet find that you come across as too soft or too harsh.

Assertiveness is about being clear and confident, without being vague or aggressive.

Decision making can be a tricky area for many people; whereas, if you take the time to talk through your choices with someone else, someone who can challenge your thoughts and discuss the options with you, someone without an agenda, you will find your thought process becomes clearer and therefore it is easier to make decisions.

Decision making is also linked to confidence; the more confident you are about yourself, the way you are, the choices you make, the easier it will be for you to make decisions in your life.

Overall, assertiveness and confidence training, will help you in many aspects of your life, including faster and easier decision making.

Procrastination and reaching goals

If you find yourself worrying about procrastinating, you are not alone! Procrastination is a big concern for lots of people, both at work and at home, where you probably have endless tasks to do and what seems like never enough time.

Why do you procrastinate? Often because the thought of how much lies ahead is more daunting than actually getting started.

If you procrastinate, you will not reach your goals, so it is essential that you find a way to manage the causes of procrastination, to enable you to focus, progress and achieve the goals you set for yourself.

Victor Frankl, the founder of Logotherapy, wrote that the greatest need of the human being is for a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Goals give you a sense of meaning and purpose. Goals give you a sense of direction. As you move toward your goals you feel happier and stronger. You feel more energized and effective. You feel more confident and competent in yourself and your abilities. Every step you take toward your goals increases your belief that you can set and achieve even bigger goals in the future.

Missed opportunities

When you worry about having no self confidence, one area this can have a big impact on, is missed opportunities.

Without improving self esteem you are less likely to believe in yourself enough to put yourself forward when an opportunity presents itself.

If you find this has happened to you once too often, and if you would like to know how to build self confidence, so that you can enjoy those opportunities that life throws your way, do consider working with a confidence coach, and giving yourself the chance to change your life.

Body confidence

You may be wondering what is body confidence and this can cover any aspect about how we look at ourselves and our bodies, including weight too much or too little, perception of our own appearance, our physical fitness, and comparisons to others. Sometimes our thought patterns are simply slightly warped and yet body confidence issues can impact both how we feel about ourselves and our overall confidence, therefore it is fundamentally important to find ways to change our thinking and accept ourselves to be able to move forward in other areas of our lives.

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Nerves and anxiety

This can show up in so many areas of our lives, from social anxiety to internal mental worrying, to exams and interviews, to fears and phobias, the list is endless. Coaching uses various methods and techniques which help with overcoming social anxiety, and with dealing with stress and anxiety, which is very similar. When you know how to cope with interview nerves or driving test nerves or any other life realities that we face that can bring about feelings of nerves and anxiety, it gives you the confidence and inner strength to deal with life in a better and more relaxed way.

Driving Nerves

Being able to drive gives us a lot of freedom and yet many people are very nervous and anxious being behind the wheel; often overwhelmed by the amount of information that needs to be dealt with constantly and all at the same time. You can be a confident driver and change how you perceive yourself as a driver to give you the freedom to drive without nerves or anxiety.

Anxiety at work

Stress, nerves and anxiety at work can be increased in our minds because of a number of factors, most commonly we often worry about how others see us, we also tend to compare our performance to others and put ourselves down. You can change how you see yourself and learn to value yourself in the workplace and recognise your own achievements in such a way that your inner confidence grows, your worries decrease and each day at work is becomes easier and more pleasant.

Job interview nerves

However suitable we are for a particular role, when it comes to job interviews many people are so uncomfortable and unfamiliar with being interviewed that they are unsure how to behave, how to respond and this spoils their chances to get the job they want. With some coaching intervention, by building your confidence around the concept of job interviews, by being able to relax about the process, you can perform with confidence at interviews and increase the probability of getting the job you want.

Jealousy towards others

This is a form of insecurity and self-criticism, we tend to compare ourselves to others, this will make one of us right and the other wrong, and when we perceive another having or achieving something that we wish for too, this raises negative and jealous emotions in us. Ever noticed how you may feel jealousy to someone who is quite similar to you? This is mostly likely because you recognise yourself in that person, and therefore feel more aligned with whatever it is that person is doing that you are not. Putting ourselves or another person down, making others or ourselves wrong is not the best way to achieve what you desire; we are less likely to move towards a successful outcome if this is accompanied by feelings of jealousy.

Defensiveness

We are likely to become defensive if we feel undermined or threatened in some way by another person or a particular situation that we are not comfortable with. To change how you manage this, it is necessary to change how you interpret the situation, and choose how you respond rather than reacting automatically; by increasing your own self awareness and developing your emotional intelligence, you will be able to manage communication with others and your own emotions in a way that gives you greater control and overall makes you feel better.